Becoming that girl 101:

Becoming that girl 101:

Okay so I know you're probably thinking, what is this girl talking about?! What does she mean by that girl 101?

Well, buckle your seatbelts, because it's about to get real!


That girl is a woman who decides how she wants her life to go and does exactly that!

She doesn't spend her time wondering who's watching or what they're saying … she puts her head down and gets the job done!

"You're bougie acting now!", so!

" You've changed since you lost that weight!", so what!

" You act like you're too good to do that now!", yup, sure do!

"Oh your prices went up?", yup they sure did!

She is not fazed by what the crowd is saying, she's focused on herself and knocking her goals down. 

She is aware of the sacrifices she has to make to get the job done!

Okay, so now that we have somewhat of an idea of who that girl is, how do we become her?

Me, I have a long way to go, but I am for sure becoming her.

Step One:

You have to acknowledge who you are and where you are in your life, even if you aren't happy about it!

If you're not ready to take full accountability for who and what you are and the things that need to change about you, then YOU AINT READY!

I've learned that this is the most important steps because if we constantly lie to ourselves about who we are then we'll never get to a place of operating at our full potential. 

So what does this look like?! You ready, because it's about to get real.

For me, I had to get to a place where I'm like okay Tiasja …

You are so lazy.

You let your anxiety cripple you into feeling like you can't do it, so you don't. 

You measure your success off on where other people around you are.

You don't hold yourself to the standard you feel you should be

You don't believe in yourself

You're never consistent with anything you do.

You have poor spending habits.

You sometimes bite off more than you can chew.

You care too much about what people think about you.


Man! I really can go on and on about this BUT! I say all of that to say, you have to be willing to expose all of the "bad" stuff about yourself so you can start making a plan on how to stop being those things.

Step Two:

Stop surrounding yourself with negativity and expecting to be a positive person! 

You can't watch reality shows filled with broken marriages and cheating and expect to trust your spouse in your relationship.

Remember… you are what you surround yourself with.

If you are surround yourself around bums and beggars, guess what you are?!

A bum and beggar! It's not rocket science fr.

If you desire to be THAT GIRL, you have to get in rooms where there are women who already are operating in that space, sis!

Do the dirty work:

-read the self-care books

-sign up to go to the seminar 

-pay for the course you need to elevate your business.

-pay to be in rooms where you aren't the most paid!

-most importantly be teachable! You dont know it all baby, and there's always more to learn. 

Step three:

Know your place in life 

Be happy when others make it! Stop secretly being a hater! 

God will never bless a mess!

So when you're sitting up wondering why God hasn't done it for you! Think back on how many people you clapped for when they got it before you did!

Or got it when you thought it should have been you!

Don't walk around being the mean girl sis! And if you know that is you hear me when I say!

It's never too late to stop being the mean girl! Give yourself some grace! Reevaluate why you've been operating in that space, and change that because it ain't cute baby!

Celebrate your people without conditions!

Meaning, stop operating in a space of "how would this benefit me if I'm friends with her?".

Be kind to people. You never know what people are going through and getting through in private! 

Think I'm lying?

Well, think about all of the stuff you have gotten yourself through that no one knows about!


Give them some grace and celebrate their wins with them, even if they didn't include you in the entire process!

This is just the beginning though!

Prepare to be sick of me because you'll be operating as THAT GIRL in no time. If you stick with it! 

It's not going to be easy and I'm going to challenge you every step of the way! 

Remember to pray and ask God for guidance and clarity. Ask him to put you in rooms that you thought weren't possible to be in! 

Ask him to give you the strength to handle the overflow. 

Remember that God is always working on your behalf but so is the devil. You have to believe that you are Graced for it and that the battle is already won baby! 

Put your faith in God and know that he won't leave you lacking anything!