Your mental health is stopping you from winning
As I said before, when I write these blogs, I am writing them for me as I talk to you. I hope to get myself out of this very dark place I am in, battling depression and anxiety is no joke! I want to be very transparent with you all, I may make it look easy, but I have my struggles just like the next. I hope this helps someone.
Now that I've gotten that out of the way…
Your mental health is truly stopping you from winning!
You overthink, doubt yourself, and believe so little of yourself that you devote your life to hiding. Fearing that you might make something of yourself.
You overthink so much that it stiffens you to the point that you can't even move, literally you can be stuck for days.
You live a day-to-day life, willing yourself through not knowing what's to come of it.
It is time that you get yourself out of that dark place!
No, it won't be easy, but it is truly possible.
The first thing you must do is start taking care of yourself. If that means you must separate yourself from people and things, do it!
Stop overplaying your part in people's lives. You go above and beyond for people who won't pick up a pen you dropped if you asked. These types of people can be so draining, and they can truly change who you are as a person without you fully even noticing it.
Take accountability for where you are and what things you need to get yourself into a better space mentally.
GO TO THERAPY!
If you are one of those people that thinks to themselves "why the heck do I need to talk to someone who doesn't even know me, like what would I even do?". You especially need to be there!
This journey isn't glamorous, but who cares! I am not ashamed that I have a therapist and am on medications to help with my anxiety and depression!
We are not made of stone; we crack, bend and even break sometimes and need someone to help put us back together.
Say it with me … "therapy is not "weak bitch" thing!"
It's the bossiest thing you can do for yourself if I'm being honest!
It also doesn't have to be something that you do forever, the best thing about it is you can make it whatever you want it to be!
Once you build a good relationship with your therapist, you guys will come up with a plan that works for you, that's why I love it so much!
Get the help you deserve, stop trying to handle everything on your own!
Stop isolating yourself from the people who care the most about you!
Find people that have your best interest at heart and allow yourself to receive the same great love you pour into everyone else!
This shit gets hard man, lord knows I know, but take it one day at a time and believe that you can overcome it!
I have truly let my mental health stop my progression so much, man, and I am so tired of that. I know I deserve so much more for myself, and I know that I can be so much more in life. I know that my abilities supersede my depression! I've done such a good job of hiding behind that it became who I was for a second, but nope not anymore!
I mean it got to a point where I wouldn't work on things for weeks, wouldn't record for YouTube, wouldn't write a blog, wouldn't go to the gym, just stuck!
But now I am giving myself room to grow, room to sit with my thoughts and feelings, and room to move on my time.
What I have found to be helpful for me is not talking to everyone about what I am going through because everyone won't understand it. You must find the right people to talk to about your struggles (don't let everyone in). I give myself a daily task sheet to complete in a day and I ONLY focus on those things. This allows me not to be so scatterbrained while still getting things done! I also remind myself daily that this is a marathon, I don't have to rush it!
Take care of yourself and give yourself permission to be vulnerable. You don't have to have it together all the time.
But, until you start working on your mental health, winning will always seem super farfetched for you.
Don't forget to join my group on Facebook: The Girls!
I am trying to build a community of strong women who can lean on each other and be there for each other.
Here are a few questions I want you to write down in your journal and answer them:
1. Do you find yourself stopping and starting, stopping, and starting a lot?
2. Do you find yourself feeling alone, but there's a room full of people?
3. Do you feel like everyone is against you?
4. Do you sometimes feel like there is no place for you in society?
If you answered yes to any of those questions, go find yourself a therapist!
You are needed in this world, you matter, and you can and will win baby!
I believe in you! It’s our winning season!